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Cremate the body, find a spot, spread the ashes. Routine. But for Delilah, her Japanese culture demands she honor the ashes by keeping them for 35 days. What to do with your mother’s remains for 35 days? Delilah and her mother were inseparable: best friends and favorite confidantes. So why should that stop after death?

At the film's outset, you witness Delilah navigate her new life with her dead mother’s ashes: in a beautifully decorative urn. Inseparable, as in life, Delilah and her mother pick up where they left off. They journey through the ups and downs of day-to-day life, with one clear difference: mom is dust in a porcelain container. How can Delilah let go when what remains of her mother is always by her side?

Through the use of physical comedy and Chaplin-esque storytelling you will become enveloped in Delilah’s new world. Like a rose that is starting to wilt, this movie is sweet with a hint of decay.

about us  |   filmmakers, theater artists, storytellers

Ruth Coughlin


Kristopher Lencowski


(Also, Writer, Makeup & Hair, Wardrobe, Producer, etc, etc.)

(Also, Writer, Cinematographer, Gaffer, Producer, etc, etc.)

Ruth is and actor, writer and producer living in Los Angeles with her awesomely creative husband, Kris and absolutely adorable dog, Jasper. She likes to help create stories that are humorous and full of heart. @ruth_coughlin, @babiruth

Kristopher Lencowski is a good Minnesota boy with an offbeat personality and desire to tell great stories. Originally coming from the world of theater, Kristopher graduated with an MFA in Directing from Brown University. Upon moving to Los Angeles, he set out with his wife, Ruth Coughlin, to make films that are funny and accessible, but with a soul. He is thrilled to make The Urn his debut in the film world, which expresses his desire to entertain with unique, clownish, underdog characters that transcend to moments of profundity. Learn more at KristopherLencowski.com

fun facts  |   inside The Urn

The Urn was shot on a Canon 6D, mostly with a Rokinon 35mm lens. We used a tripod with wheels for the dolly shots, an Opteka SteadyVid for handheld and our iron and ironing board holder for the shots on the bathroom mirror.

We broke the urn. Twice. Read about it

The scene in the donut shop was supposed to be in a grocery store, but we actually couldn't find a grocery store that would let us film. We were desperate to find a spot to shoot. Then, it occurred to us, what do you want more than anything when you're grieving? Donuts.

Ruth looked through at least 1,500 urns to find the right one.


press packet

We've got lots of fun stories about shooting the film, from getting creative while shooting on a low budget, to breaking the urn and gluing it back together, to working as a newlywed husband and wife team, to what this material and how we deal with it means to us. Check it out and contact us to hear more!

contact  | get in touch with us

Kristopher Lencowski




Ruth Coughlin




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